Addicted to Sexting

Some new words out there you probably

need to hurry up and get hip to.

- Okay.

- Uh, sexting.

Sexting is out there now.

You familiar with that?

Explain to those

that may not know...

...what sexting is.

Sexting is when you text sexy.

- You know what I'm saying?

- Like what?

Like, "Boy, what you got on?"

"Ooh, I got on something,

you know?"

It's your favorite big booty,

Alexis Texas,

and I wanna sext

with all of you.

The reason I think

people engage in sexting

is the reason

that people engage in

all sorts of electronic

communication behind the screen.

There's immediacy to it

that's great.

It's like window shopping.

All you do is kind of like,

"Oh, I like that.

I like that." You know.

It's like, "Oh, I'm just gonna

go ahead and try that on."

It gets me through the day.

It makes me feel good about myself.

- It's a form of seduction.

- Exactly! That's what I said.

"I'm thinking of you.

"I want you right now,

but you're not here.

"Can't wait till you get home."

You know, it's not like,

we met in an airplane,

and now we're in the bathroom f***ing.

It's all about the build.

There's a sense of safety.

There's a glass screen in front of you,

and you don't see the person

at the other end.

So what you see

is a reflection of you.

It's sexy.

Who doesn't like

hearing or seeing something sexual about

somebody that they're interested in?

The idea of lovers communicating

secret little messages

is as old as writing.

Sexting, first of all, can be

either verbal or visual.

I kinda have a different feeling

about both of them.

From the verbal side,

sometimes I think it's good for

people to be able, behind a screen,

to say things they might not be

able to say to someone's face.

Most of the sexting

that's going on

tends to be healthy,

in my opinion.

I think a lot of people are doing

it to keep their love lives active,

and to let their partners know

that they're interested

and aroused by them.

So I think,

absolutely, it's healthy.

Since I just moved

from Virginia to here,

I don't have the connection

with the person that I was

dealing with at the time.

So we're constantly, always,

sending little things back and forth

to each other every day.

I learned about sexting through

my friends in high school.

It was, like, not really

an adrenaline rush, I guess.

I mean, maybe a little bit,

but more of like an approval, too.

Like, I send a photo,

and they send back,

um, which means

that they're interested.

There's an anticipation

aspect to it.

The back and forth exchange

instead of having everything

so instantaneous.

I think it builds arousal

to have that anticipation.

The idea that men

are more visual

and that women need to be

stimulated through their mind,

is completely a stereotype.

Of course, there are women that prefer

to be stimulated more emotionally,

and there are men that

prefer to see a sexy picture.

But there's also

the opposite situation as well.

It's really a per person

and preference based situation.

I'm not really dating or doing anything,

so it's necessary right now.

'Cause I'd be so lonely

without it.

I haven't been out on a date,

a real date, since 1984.

Do you have any advice

that you can offer me

before I put myself out there?

Sexting is out there now.

You familiar with that?

I've heard of it, yes.

- You've heard of it?

- Yes.

You're gonna

have to participate.

What's interesting is they're not

finding any profile of the "sexter."

It's not particularly

one kind of person.

It seems to cut across

many ages.

It cuts across

ethnic backgrounds.

It cuts across everything.

It's really an activity that I think is

going to start to increase more and more

as people feel more of a

connection through their devices

to the rest of their world.

There's something really fun

and sexy

bringing sexting

into a relationship,

and teasing the person while

they're not allowed to get to you.

If they're stuck at work,

or something like that.

And then you waiting in an outfit,

you know, when they come home.

It's... That's a really nice way

to spark up a relationship.

The most appealing thing

about sexting is maybe, um...

It's kind of like going

to Costco and getting a sample.

You know, I don't wanna buy

the entire Hungry-Man meal,

but if I can get a little taste of the

macaroni, a little taste of the turkey,

then, okay, I think I like this.

We both know it's going to

end up here.

We're going to end up on bed,

doing it. Got it.

What mood will we be in

when we get there?

Is it pursuit and capture?

Are we gonna be two goofy young kids?

Are we two sophisticated

people of the world?

Am I gonna be a World War II spy,

you're gonna be an officer?

In what way are we gonna go

where we're gonna go?

When I open the door,

it's like, "Whoa!

"This amazing person who showed up at

my doorstep is gonna take me away now!"

And you get to walk in and be

the guy who takes her away now

because all that boring... The important

yet dull stuff has been handled.

If you're a really shy person but you

wanna learn how to dirty talk in bed,

start doing it over a text.

You know, just little things

like that.

If you're not so

confident in the bedroom,

you wanna be

a little more confident,

doing your own little personal selfie photoshoots

is a great way to do that, you know?

See, this is an art,

and this is a relationship that

men and women have had since the

beginning of mobile devices.

Okay?

I don't quite know

when I learned about sexting.

Or when it began.

Shoot, when did

cellphones start?

Back when I was 14,

I was on my Internet all the time.

And it would start

with chatting,

but it would end up

going to sexting,

and I didn't realize

it was that.

But definitely IM chatting

turned into some sexual stuff.

I was really naive at first.

You know, taking photos.

I just thought I would take a photo,

I would send it to this person

and that was that.

Only their eyes would see it.

I think I was 17

when I first started sexting.

I wasn't completely

comfortable with it just yet.

Like, he would say things,

and it would, like, turn me on,

but I never knew

what to say back.

I was a teenager when it

became a prevalent thing.

Um, it's kind of like a rite of

passage with teenagers, I guess.

I have a funny feeling that someone said,

"Send me a sexy pic."

You know, and being a girl,

and being young and in her 20s,

I'm pretty sure that I was

just flattered by the attention

and wanted to impress

whoever it was asking.

Really, I first learned

about it through my children.

My first time was a photo because

I didn't know how to do it.

I didn't know what to say,

or what would be appropriate to say

until I sent the photo and there

were words sent back to me,

and then I started.

I had a cheap, uh, I think

it was a Motorola Sliver phone.

So, uh, you know she couldn't really see the

intricate veins and details of my penis,

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