Sex: How It Works Page #9

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step, you know, interacting

with it I guess you'd say;

touching it, licking it, putting

it places - the whole shebang.

NARRATOR:
Around three and a

half percent of American adults

describe themselves as

lesbian, gay or bisexual

about 11 million

people in total.

MALE 1:
Well I was with women

before, when I was younger,

and after I was with

women I was with men.

GAY MAN 1:
It all started

at the age of seventeen,

let's put it like that, I used

to date girls before that but at

the age of seventeen it was my

like my first funny experience

with a guy.

GAY MAN 2:
Yeah, I lost

my virginity to a woman,

not even a woman it was a high

school girl when I was thirteen,

um, I had no idea that I was

gay or bi or anything until

I was divorced the second time.

MALE 1:
People think that being

gay is a choice, it's not,

it's when you're gay that's

what you ultimately want.

NARRATOR:
Scientists are still

trying to crack the puzzle

of why some people prefer the

opposite sex, the same sex,

or in the case of some

people both sexes...

AIDAN:
Sometimes I'm in

the mood to be straight,

so I only get with girls.

Sometimes I'm in the mood to

be gay so I only get with guys.

The grass is always

greener on the other side,

if you know what I mean?

So, if I'm with a guy

I wanna be with a girl,

if I'm with a girl I

wanna be with a guy?

NARRATOR:
Like many bisexuals

Aiden has a higher sex drive

than either straight

or gay people.

AIDAN:
Gay guys tend to think

I'm greedy so they don't really

see me as relationship material;

they see me more as a one-night

stand.

Um, girls they take it

either one of two ways.

One:
they move away from the

idea of having sex with me

because I've had

sex with guys, um,

and the fact that they think

that if I were to have be in

a relationship with them then

they've got double the people

to look out for if I was

to cheat on them or, um,

someone wanted to try

and cheat with me.

I do enjoy casual sex

with I suppose anyone.

Um, but in my experience if I

wanted to go out tonight and

have sex, it would be easier to

get with a guy because I'm a lot

more comfortable just randomly

going out and getting with a guy

than I am with a girl, and I

think I could find a guy quicker

than I could find a girl

to go and have sex with.

NARRATOR:
To satisfy his

sexual urges Aiden uses an app

on a smartphone to locate

potential partners.

AIDEN:
I could in theory

probably meet like 5 or 6 people

and just be like, I'll meet

you there at this time or here

at this time.

I'm not saying that I

will, but you could.

A guys talking to me now, and

he's asking me for pictures.

I have some naughty pictures,

but mainly they- people ask for

more pictures of your face just

because you can put any profile

picture up but that doesn't

necessarily mean that's you.

NARRATOR:
It's not long before

Aiden tracks down somebody

who wants to have sex.

AIDEN:
I didn't know it was

gonna definitely happen tonight,

but I've obviously been talking

and I told him my day off was

today and tomorrow so I've

just been kind of hinting it

I suppose, to him, and now he's

kind of come back and said,

Well, I've got an hour, so I can

get there in kind of ten minutes

and then be done in be done

in half an hour so I'll be

quite happy.

Um, I do have a condom

in my back pocket, um,

just in case he doesn't.

NARRATOR:
Meeting up with

a stranger for casual sex

is risky, but it's a risk

that Aiden's willing to take.

Bisexual Aiden is on his

way to have sex with a stranger

he's arranged to meet

using a smartphone app.

AIDEN:
I guess what goes through

my mind on the way to hook up

is, um, a bit of nervousness;

I've never met the guy before.

Obviously the thrill of going

to actually meet someone,

the excitement of that is

a is a big factor which I enjoy.

NARRATOR:
A sense of danger

can fuel sexual excitement.

Heightened levels of adrenaline

can double the heart rate;

a rush of endorphins produce

a sense of exhilaration,

and in the brain, instinct

takes over this is not a time

for thinking, but for action!

AIDEN:
Definitely

nervous at the moment.

I want to make sure

I perform, firstly.

I gotta make sure that,

because he's quite attractive,

that he um that he enjoys it.

It was a very good night.

We both got what we wanted out

of it and it was a good release

for me, I really enjoyed it.

I suppose I can relate it to

when I go to the gym and when

you had a good workout,

you pumped some iron,

and it's the same kind of

feeling that you get when

you go for a hook up.

It's like you've

got more energy,

you've just released loads

and now you've got more and

you just wanna like do it again.

NARRATOR:
With increased

sexual activity,

the greater the risk of

contracting a sexually

transmitted disease.

There are at least 25 different

STD's that can be spread through

vaginal, anal and oral sex.

Most can be prevented by

wearing a condom, but others,

like herpes, can be spread

by skin to skin contact,

and are less easy to avoid.

The most common STD is

Human Papilloma Virus,

which infects over 50 per

cent of sexually active people

at some point in their lives.

And in the last decade the

number of people with Chlamydia

has doubled it can be

easily cured with antibiotics,

but it left untreated it can

lead to sterility in women

and men.

But for some STDs

there is no cure...

BRYAN:
The guy who infected me I

met through a mutual friend

and then, slowly but surely, we

just sort of had this connection

going.

Then we eventually started

exploring ourselves sexually;

we started a relationship,

what can I say?

It was actually probably my

first love I'd say I had.

We never used protection,

even at the beginning

of the relationship.

I was head over heels, I never

thought anything about it.

And so, finally,

I just started asking:

like have you ever contracted

anything from some people?

Well, it went silent.

And he finally full out

said, Well I have HIV.

I started getting sick, I

mean my whole body ached.

This was like probably a week

and a half-two weeks after

he told me.

I like... being in the

mentality where I was like,

This can't happen to me.

I'm really young...

and everything, just

I can't be this sick.

I literally felt like I

wanted to keel over and die.

NARRATOR:
Brian let the world

know he was HIV positive.

BRYAN:
I'm sorry to tell you

this but the blood results that

we took on you have come back

and you have HIV... I've never

felt so violated before,

never, at all felt so violated.

All sense of trust and

everything flew out the window.

It was just like death became

a reality at that point.

He was very ruthless towards

me, very, just like, you know,

you brought this upon

yourself, you didn't ask,

that's your problem,

blah blah blah.

That is a crime, I mean,

if you're HIV positive,

you're supposed to

let your partner know.

I didn't know how

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