Addicted to Porn: Chasing the Cardboard Butterfly Page #4

But that is on us.

It's like you said.

It's a social issue

that we've got to have

a conversation about.

Before my generation,

my parents were talking about finding

Uncle Joe's "Playboy", you know,

over in the corner somewhere.

That's not the case anymore. Print

pornography's kinda going the way of the dodo.

The youth aren't

really interested in that.

What they're looking at online, they're not

even really interpreting as pornography.

They're just looking at it as

something that's like a video game

or anything else

that's entertaining.

That, in and of itself,

is a danger,

because they're not having an

age-appropriate sexual experience,

drawn out over

a natural developmental period.

It's all crammed into a time

when their brain isn't even designed to

handle the natural range of sexuality,

let alone the bizarre and extreme

that the world is now offering them.

It's interesting, most of these scenes,

and Ana Bridges's paper,

which did show that up to

90 percent of porn scenes

do show aggression towards women

also specified, in these scenes,

that they all show withdrawal and

ejaculation on the female's body.

Frequently, in her face.

So, Bill Margold, the pornography star,

interestingly said that,

"I believe the most violent we can

get is ejaculation to the face."

He said, "We want to inundate the

world with orgasms to the face."

So, all these young adolescents

you're referring to

are resonating

with Bill Margold.

He's their new teacher.

What happens with

this pornography exposure,

they're getting a sense of what

relationships are supposed to be like,

based on pornography's myth.

And when we're looking

at what pornography offers,

it's talking and showing

instantaneous gratification.

There is very little,

if any, foreplay.

There's very little, if any,

romance or courtship

in the sense of taking somebody on a date,

and getting to know the family,

and getting to know each others' likes,

and so forth.

We're talking about

somebody knocks on the door,

and within 30 seconds,

we're completely naked and going at it.

And so, that's not the normed

courtship patterns for humans.

It never has been, and it's not

something that sustains intimacy.

In fact, it's...

It deprives intimacy.

When you are a teenager,

you start to come into sexuality,

but you don't know anything about it,

because nobody talk about it.

Nobody give any

transmission about it.

So you are like...

"What do I have to do?

Am I...

Am I allowed to do it?

Should I not do it?

When is it a good time?

Is it a good person?

Am I ready to do it?"

Should kids be learning about

sex from pornography? F***, no!

But if they are, why?

They're learning about

sex from pornography,

'cause we're not doing a good

enough job about educating them.

And so, kids are going

to the resource of pornography.

Pornography was never

intended to be educational.

What you get out of the education

here in this country is ridiculous.

As a young tucker,

if I had a look at pornography,

I don't think I would've known

what I was doing, to be honest.

I hope that, you know,

next generations can realize

making love is not choking,

and slapping, and spanking,

and pulling hair while you're having sex.

That's not love. And...

It shouldn't be the porn

industry teaching our kids

how to have sex,

how to make love.

This is the first wave

of digital citizens.

You know, this is

the first wave of kids

for whom, a world without the Internet

sounds like what you and I...

A world without cars. You know?

So, to teach them

how to be good digital citizens

with respect to their sexual...

Respect to all their behavior,

but specifically with respect

to their sexual behavior.

So what is the state

of sexual education

in public schools in the US?

Or the state of education

on pornography, for that matter?

According to findings by the National

Conference of State Legislatures,

it's alarming.

Only 22 states have mandates requiring

public schools to teach sex education.

Nineteen states require that

if sex education is provided,

it must be, quote, "medically,

factually, or technically accurate,"

citing a long list

of cold, clinical criteria.

Three states require parental consent

before a child can receive sex education,

and 35 states allow parents to opt

out on behalf of their children.

In researching this, it not only seems

that sex education is not a high priority,

it's a subject matter that

both educators and parents

are still fearful

of approaching.

It's as real as any other issue that

students go on to face in their adult lives,

yet you see no opt out

for math or science classes.

Ironically, listed among

the same statistics,

are the facts that 47 percent of high school

students say they've already had sex,

one in four girls will become

pregnant by their 20th birthday,

and teen childbearing costs American tax

payers roughly $9.4 billion annually.

So it seems fair to say that considering

what has been learned thus far,

there's a great need to get parents

and educators on the same page

in understanding the importance

of sexual education,

including that of pornography.

By and large, the kids know more

than the adults at this point.

So, the adults, we could really learn a lot

from them if we start opening a dialog,

'cause they're gonna educate us to

what's really happening to them,

what they're really

being exposed to.

And then we can give them at

least a paternal, or maternal,

or a mentor's perspective around

what that might do for them.

Positive and negative.

And thus you see

the linear nature of the issue.

With technology offering

high exposure to porn,

and a limited amount

of education in public schools,

young people then take the

issue into their college years.

Here are some students from

Arizona State University.

No, it's everyone's

normal part of life.

Literally, every single person.

I don't know anyone

who doesn't watch it at all.

I know a lot of guys do it,

and even girls, too,

but I feel like guys do it

more than girls.

Normal with guys my age,

probably just...

Just hooking up at random parties with

people that don't care about you.

It has nothing to do with love,

or being intimate with each other,

or actually caring about each other.

It's just about the act.

So I guess people portray what they see,

what they grow up with.

And again, watching television

and just seeing the ratio

of love versus violence.

It influence little kids,

or teenagers, or young people.

"Oh, girls aren't

worth this much.

They're only worth... I'mma hit it

for a one night stand and then leave.

And then I'll just

meet another girl."

Girls take it more

seriously than guys,

because girls get more attached

to a man after intercourse,

while a guys can just like hit it

and quit it, and it's good and done.

So, maybe women turn to that,

because it's just an easier route,

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