Sex: How It Works Page #5

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Dr Linda is interested to

see how Katherine and Chris,

the couple who responded the

most to pictures of each other,

react when they meet.

FEMALE PARTICIPANT: Regardless

if it'll be fun, but,

there were two guys in

particular that kind

of stood out.

There were a couple of guys

that I thought were attractive,

I'm just hoping that I have

a pleasant two minutes.

DR LINDA:
Ok John can you, can

you fit Amy out with these...

NARRATOR:
Eye-tracking glasses

will let us see if there's

a difference in where

men and women look.

FEMALE PARTICIPANT:... I's

totally... I'm really nervous.

I'm just hoping that whoever

sits across can see past

my glasses... to the real me.

DR LINDA:
Let's bring in the

guys - can I have Chris come in,

please?

The way that we matched you was

based on all these biometric

results, so all the stuff

that we've been doing;

What got your heart fluttering,

what got their fluttering

it's based on that.

William? OK William.

MALE PARTICIPANT: How are you?

NARRATOR:
The females' eyes tend

to lock on to the faces of men

with more masculine features

such as a strong jawline

and a broad forehead.

But with Amy's heart rate and

perspiration levels remaining

constant, it's possible that

none of the men are exciting

her at a biological level.

The male subjects eyes quickly

drift to the breasts even

the briefest of glances, see a

jump in heart rate and sweat.

The reptilian part of the

brain has really kicked in.

DR LINDA:
It's really

interesting because when you do

research like this you can

kind of see them interacting on

that kind of 3D level of really

getting to know it each other.

You can see sparks

flying especially,

and very interestingly, with the

two that were rated the highest.

OK guys! STOP!

How has it been Amy?

FEMALE PARTICIPANT: I don't know

- it's fun, it's interesting.

MALE PARTICIPANT: It's been

awesome, beautiful smile.

It's awesome to interact

with her. Ah, fun!

NARRATOR:
As a species we're

genetically programmed to seek

out a sexual partner..

yet for nearly 15 million people

in the United States approaching

a member of the opposite sex

is a terrifying experience.

But is there a way of overcoming

this so-called approach anxiety?

30 year old Kurt hopes so, the

stress he feels is so extreme

he's still a virgin.

KURT:
I have never had a

girlfriend, never had sex.

As far as being a virgin goes,

as more as I'm getting older,

it's more of a

burden on my mind.

When it comes to talking to

them, I don't know what to say,

I clam up, I get very nervous.

Our other friend was here with

me and uh... there was like 5

girls or something like that

he was talking with them and

chatting them up and everything

and I thought it was a good

opportunity to go

talk with them...

no... they ALL got up!

I don't know dude. I don't

know what the problem was.

What am I doing wrong?

I've been following the

pick-up community for a couple

of years now.

NARRATOR:
Desperate to get over

his phobia of talking to women,

and to finally have sex, Kurt

has contacted professional

pick up artist Beckster.

KURT:
I came across Beckster

through a friend of mine.

Him and I started chatting

and talking about pick up and

everything else and that I

would like to train with him.

BEXTER:
When you see

someone you like,

you have to go and talk to

them within 3 seconds...

BECKSTER:
Yeah.. go!

If you wait too long, the

moment's gone for one,

it's not spontaneous for two,

it seems unconvincing and

unnatural, and also you can go

inside your mind and think of

excuses not to approach,

and that's called analysis

paralysis.

So you actually convince

yourself not to go and do it.

Go back and ask

for her facebook,

tell her you want to invite

her to a fancy dress party.

Just go and talk to people,

y'know we're all human beings.

NARRATOR:
Will Beckster be

able to help Kurt find a woman?

KURT:
Excuse me ladies,

how are you this evening?

NARRATOR:
30 year old virgin

Kurt has arranged to meet

Professional pick up artist

Beckster, in Manhattan,

for an intensive one on one

crash course in seduction.

BECKSTER:
I got into learning

these seduction techniques for

my own benefit, because about 15

years ago I was in a worse place

than Kurt was and I really

needed to get out of my shell.

I really had no female

interaction whatsoever,

no female friends or nothing

and so I was stuck in a rut.

Today I've got some

missions for you...

KURT:
Ok...

BECKSTER:
The first mission is,

I want you to ask some girls

just where a good coffee shop is

KURT:
Yeh, yeah..

Excuse me miss, I was just

wondering if there was a good

coffee shop...

GIRL:
Ah, I don't know sorry!

KURT:
... I was wondering if

you wanted to go for a quick cup

of coffee with me?

GIRL:
Um, no, I'm late.

I'm sorry.

KURT:
You are? OK.

Thank you then.

I'm actually going to a party

a bit later on this evening,

I was wondering if I

could invite you to it?

GIRL:
Again, I'm sorry, I

have to decline...

BECKSTER:
You gotta spin,

you get a spin for that!

So I'm going to get you to

talk to a few people, ok,

and just say something

like, you have a great vibe

and I know it's a busy city

but you're still shining out

above that, Ok

Go tell her you like

her boots as well, go!

Go, go-go-go!

KURT:
I am very not used to

this, but I'll give it a go!

BECKSTER:
As soon as

I say go, just go,

don't think about it or

you'll get analysis paralysis.

...go! go!

Y'know for some people this

is harder than going to war.

They'd rather fight in a war

than they would talk to a girl

on the street.

KURT:
It's not that I'm not

ready to have sex or lose my

virginity, it's the fact it's

nervousness goes on in my head.

NARRATOR:
The root

of Kurt's problem,

and others who suffer

approach anxiety,

lies in how a part of their

brain assesses if the potential

pleasure of sex is worth

risking the pain of rejection.

The limbic system controls our

body's most primal instincts:

to fight, flight,

feed or fornicate.

And when Kurt

approaches a woman,

memories of past failures

warn the limbic system

that the threat is

greater than the reward.

Resulting in a rush

of stress hormones,

that increase his pulse and

sweat levels so much he starts

to feel distressed, even sick.

KURT:
Excuse me, just wondering

where you got your fancy outfits

at, they're... they're neat!

BECKSTER:
Rejection's probably

the worst things that people

fear in this, because

no one wants to be rejected,

but we have to learn that

rejection's not personal because

they don't know you yet,

and he needs to see that.

He's learnt major life

lessons very quickly.

Simple things like don't lean

in when you talk to a girl,

smiling when you go in and maybe

a small touch of the elbow.

These things heighten sexual

arousal and that's how we find

a mate.

He's gonna eventually find

people that do want to go

on dates with him and go for

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