Sex: How It Works Page #7

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an erection.

Being surrounded by other

guys in hockey locker rooms

and the conversation of

sex comes up all the time,

I just started to

wonder, hey am I normal?

What's going on?

What's supposed to happen?

NARRATOR:
Colin is not alone, in

the US as many as 30 million men

are regularly unable to get or

maintain an erection during sex.

With the causes

including stress, ageing,

obesity and

circulatory problems.

For Colin the devastating

impact the problem was having

on his life, forced him

to take drastic action.

COLIN:
It just tore

me apart inside.

It was a constant

weight that was on me,

knowing that I couldn't

have sex with anybody.

After going through

all the solutions,

the answer was finally

a penile implant.

NARRATOR:
Although

still in his early 20s

Colin has never been

able to have an erection.

To try to understand why,

he's turned to his Dad.

COLIN'S DAD:
He called me on

the phone and asked if anybody

in the family had

circulation problems.

COLIN:
Yep.

COLIN'S DAD:
... and I

said no, why do you ask?

and you said well because

I can't get an erection.

And I was at the other end of

the phone and I think it went

dead, you know, what? he

can't get what, an erection?

Well the first thing that's hard

to deal with is knowing that

your child has a birth defect

which you helped create,

you know, and it's

particularly one that's like

this, you know, so that's the

first thing I have to deal with.

NARRATOR:
When

Colin was examined,

the doctors discovered

that for some reason,

there was a fault in the flow of

blood into Colin's penis when he

became sexually aroused, making

it impossible to build up enough

pressure to produce an erection

The most common treatment for

erectile dysfunction is to take

pills, such as Viagra,

that increase blood flow

to the penis, but for Colin

the drugs didn't help.

COLIN:
It just tore

me apart inside.

It was a constant

weight that was on me,

knowing that I couldn't

have sex with anybody.

It got to a point where I wanted

to have sex so bad that after

going through all the solutions,

the answer was finally a penile

implant.

NARRATOR:
It took surgeons over

three and half hours to insert

silicon rods into the muscles

of Colin's penis that were

then attached to a small

pump inside his scrotum.

COLIN:
Alright, here we

have an implant bulb,

which serves as a

pump and as a release.

So in your lower abdomen area

there's a fluid reservoir and

chords going all the way down

into the penile implant and into

the pump that's in the scrotum.

In real life, ok, so we have

the sluice chamber goes down

into the pump.

When I want to get an erection

I just pump a couple of times

and then all that fluid's in the

penis and I have an erection.

When I wanna deflate, I grab the

bulb and all of the fluid goes

back out of the penis through

the pump and that reservoir

balloon kind of fills back up.

That was a $30,000

erection that you just saw.

It was a huge relief after I

could finally have sex for

the first time it was just

like this weight was lifted off

my shoulders and I could finally

just step outside and feel free.

Funny enough the first erection

I ever had lasted me ten weeks.

MALE FRIEND Are you serious?

COLIN:
Yeah because they put

the implant in at like 50 or 60%

inflated,

friend:
what did

you do for ten weeks?

Stayed indoors!

He keeps joking around with

me that I should be the first

implant porn star.

I can have an erection whenever

I want to for as long as I want

to, something that was on my

mind every day for my entire

life up until that

point is now gone.

So now I can have a boner 24/7.

NARRATOR:
With his

erection restored,

Colin is able to enjoy

a healthy sex life.

Back in Houston it's

Tiffany's bachelorette party.

She and her fianc,

Ryan, have never had sex.

But with their wedding just

3 days away that's all about

to change.

TIFFANY'S FRIEND:

You're getting married!

TIFFANY:
.. In 3 days!

TIFFANY'S FRIEND: Are you

more excited or nervous?

TIFFANY:
I think

I'm more excited.

TIFFANY'S FRIEND:

About the whole thing?

Like, the wedding day

and the wedding night?

NARRATOR:
Tiffany uses her

bachelorette party to get some

last minute tips.

TIFFANY:
I told

Ryan- I was like,

don't feel really bad if

just start crying during our

honeymoon for like no reason.

And he's like, do you mean

like while we're having sex?

I was like I didn't

mean that, but maybe!

I've asked some people that

I know and that I trust,

just what to expect and, you

know, how to prepare myself,

you know, emotionally

and physically, and...

FRIEND:
Take it from

me who had no clue...

you will figure it out and you

will find things that you like

and you will find things

that you don't like,

but you have got to talk.

You have got to say that,

I did not feel that...

FRIEND:
Yeah...

but it's ok 'cause I mean you're

married, so it's just like,

Ooh, I really liked

that, or don't do that!'

TIFFANY:
Some of my friends

have just recommended, you know,

different lubricants to use and

condoms to use that, you know,

won't bother you and do whatever

you can to help you relax and be

comfortable together, naked,

you know, for the first time!

FRIEND:
I didn't really

know what sex was 'til after

I got married.

I mean, no, like, seriously,

it's so different,

it's so much better and 10

years and 5 kids later...

...it keeps getting better!

GIRLS Ohh!

FRIEND:
That's good news!

NARRATOR:
Finding somebody to

have sex with is one of our most

powerful instincts, yet science

is beginning to recognise a

group of people who have no

desire to have intercourse

they're known as asexuals.

A recent study estimates there

are over 65 million asexuals

worldwide.

21 year old student Jenni

identifies herself as asexual.

JENNI:
The basic definition is

that you lack sexual attraction

and for me it basically

just means that I don't look

at people and think Hmm.

Yeah, I'd have sex with you.

I mean people are like, Oh but

if you've not tried it then

how do you know?

And it's like, well,

if your straight,

have you tried having sex

with someone, you know,

of the same sex as you?

How do you know you

wouldn't enjoy that?

It- you just kind of know that

if you're not interested in it,

you're not interested in it,

regardless of have you tried it

or not?

NARRATOR:
Asexuality is becoming

accepted as a distinct sexual

orientation, rather

than a disorder,

although science has yet

to uncover the reason

for the lack of sexual desire.

JENNI:
There are people who

definitely view it as a disorder

and are like, Oh, if we give

you these pills we can fix it,

or people who ask you, Have

you had your hormones checked?

as though that's the

obvious solution,

they totally

understand what it is.

And then you have people who

go one step worse and I've been

asked before if I have

been molested as a child.

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