The Red Pill Page #8

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without asking

what even happened.

It's just presumed

that men are the criminals.

I was assaulted several times,

and I never got any help.

I went to the police still

bleeding a couple of times,

and one police officer said...

I'll never forget this, he said,

"if she starts

hitting you again,

you better get out

of there fast,

because if she just breaks

a fingernail trying to hit you,

we'll arrest you."

I mean, I can't tell you

at this point

how many guys I've talked to

who are like,

"yeah, you know, she stabbed me

and they put me in jail."

Not only are there

endless studies

that show women are

just as violent as men are,

when I would talk about it,

invariably,

men would start coming out of

the woodwork with stories...

Stories they were

afraid to tell,

stories that they got

laughed at for,

stories they they

got blamed for.

It's hideous.

This is not flattering to men

to talk about

men's vulnerabilities,

to talk about the ways

that they are not strong

and that they are, well, weak.

And to be honest about it,

it's not flattering.

A solution for both genders

is that we need to be

able to recognize

how men are vulnerable

and we need to be able

to recognize

how women are actors.

Because we have

a huge blind spot

especially when women

do bad things.

My best friend

that I grew up with

since kindergarten

was being physically abused

by his wife

who he'd been married to

for 20 years.

She' ll break glass and

throw it at him, punch him.

I've seen it happen

spontaneously,

and it was frequent.

And he's bigger than her,

but he didn't want to hit her.

And he didn't want

the children...

They had three minor children,

he didn't want them

seeing this at all.

So he would usually

just go outside,

because there would be

glass breaking

or things being smashed

or yelling,

and he knew that the neighbors

might think it's him.

So he would go outside

so that the neighbors

could see what's happened.

Eventually, I said,

"look, you're gonna need...

You need professional help,

and so does she.

Maybe the kids do, too."

So I called a bunch of

domestic violence shelters.

I just looked around online

and I called,

but every place

that I called said,

"we don't help men.

We don't help male...

Men at all."

And I started becoming curious

about why that was,

'cause I learned that these

were state funded shelters.

And I know that men pay

at least half of the taxes

that fund these shelters

if they're state funded,

and I just was wondering why.

Basically, there was

no place to take him

and it just continued.

The problem just kept going.

In the United States,

there are over 2,000

domestic violence shelters.

All of them serve

female victims,

and nearly all of them

turn away male victims.

In fact, as of 2016,

there's only a single domestic

violence shelter for men.

My initial reaction

was that there needed to be

thousands more women's shelters

because that many more women

are being battered.

But as it turns out,

one in three women

and one in four men

will be victims

of physical violence

by an intimate partner

in their lifetime.

Sure, there's a slight

majority of female victims,

but how can that excuse

deny men help?

Couldn't this be considered

gender discrimination?

Think of it this way.

Roughly 78%

of all suicides are men.

If suicide prevention services

only served men,

wouldn't we see the gender

discrimination immediately?

If there are over 2,000

women's shelters

that turn away men,

and only one shelter for men,

obviously, the resources

don't match the need.

How are you involved in

the men's rights movement?

Well, from the very beginning

when I first opened the refuge,

which was in 1971

in Chiswick in London,

almost as soon

as I took the women in,

I got a house for men.

A voice for men's

editor at large Erin Pizzey

founded the first ever

women's shelter in 1971,

and she is widely revered

in the men's rights community.

'Cause you see, what

I knew from the beginning,

most domestic violence

is consensual.

Both are involved.

Sometimes one's the perpetrator,

the other plays the victim,

then it crosses over.

It's not as though it's just

all men or all women.

It's both, and occasionally,

innocent victims...

Very innocent.

Battered children grow up to

batter, that's what I learned,

whether it be a man or a woman.

And I now know

that if a woman comes in

with a history of violence

in her own childhood,

chances are, she will be

probably violent to her children,

and she will want to live on this

knife edge of crisis and danger.

I haven't been allowed to speak.

- That's the difficulty.

- Why is that?

Because I'm completely barred

from all conferences.

I'm not allowed to walk up

the step of my own refuge.

I bought the bloody building.

But, no, because

there's feminists...

The woman who runs it

is very heavily feminist.

She won't have anything

to do with me.

What did you say

that made them hate you?

That women could be

equally as violent as men...

That was from the beginning.

Erin Pizzey says that 62

of the first 100 women

to enter her refuge

were just as violent

as the men they left,

and violent towards

their children.

Verbally, and...

you know, very easily,

and I've had an argument...

But the feminists I've met

have an entirely different take

on domestic violence.

On the whole issue

of domestic violence...

That's just another word,

really.

It's a clean-up word

about wife beating,

'cause that's really what it is.

Or "dating violence."

And it's not girls

that are beating up on boys.

It's boys that are

beating up on girls

and using violence

to intimidate and to control.

And we have very few

what's called

domestic violence shelters,

which are places that women

can leave their home

with their children

and get a new start,

get out of the violence.

But they're not nearly

enough of them.

We need more funding

and more resources

because it is

a tremendous disadvantage

for women and girls.

In 2014,

the CDC released a report

revealing that over

5.4 million men

and 4.7 million women

had been victims of intimate

partner physical violence

within the previous 12 months.

But then why does the media

paint domestic violence

as a women's issue?

The world

health organization says

one in three women

are abused by their partner.

One in three American women

experiences domestic violence

or stalking

at some point in her life.

And when it was

addressed as a men's issue,

the speaker's point

was that it's a men's issue

because men are the problem.

I'm gonna share with you

a paradigm shifting perspective

on the issues

of gender violence.

I don't see these

as women's issues

that some good men

help out with.

In fact, I'm gonna argue

that these are men's issues.

Why is domestic violence

still a big problem

in the United States

and all over the world?

What's going on? Why do so

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