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No.

No, and when he does, he usually

manages to pull a muscle.

So...

But they lost by about 70 runs,

and our team lost by about 70 runs.

At the end of the game,

somebody is nominated

to wear that ridiculous garment.

I think bringing you lot

along for the weekend

had a lot to do with

me wearing the...

wearing the jacket

this time.

So, the jacket is not

an enviable thing to wear?

No, no.

Well, going to Africa,

and try and teach people

who are not civilized

to be more or less good.

It all springs from, uh...

loving God and Christ,

I suppose.

Some people

often will say that

the bully is upset about

something in their own lives,

and so, when they're bullying,

they're...

I suppose I'm taking them

to Quakers

so that they learn

the Christian stories

and a lot of what's embedded

in our culture.

They're good moral tales

that we should, when they reflect upon,

you know, they may give them

a sense of right and wrong

and so on.

We like the ethos of

tolerance and understanding.

The boys go to

a local Quaker school

where Penny teaches.

Everybody in the school,

from the youngest 2-1/2 year old

in the nursery to the headmaster,

is known by

their first names,

and there is no uniform

and very few

formal rules.

Oh, pull up,

because he'll take...

Are you ambitious

for them?

Yeah, I mean, some people

work ferociously hard,

and while that's rewarding

and they enjoy that

and they enjoy the success

and so on,

you just hope they get a nice

balance to their lives.

What are your fears

for the future

with the boys?

That they don't

fulfill their potential,

that they're led astray

in some way...

drugs or something.

They end up unhappy,

with regrets about

not having done

as well as they could.

What a night

we're going to have here!

Right, if I wake up to find

anybody clutching my genitals!

George!

They're very good company,

but they will grow apart.

You know,

eventually leave home,

and we won't see them

so often.

And in a way,

I'll miss them dreadfully,

but that's the natural

order of things.

Just think how comfortable Mummy

is in her bed-and-breakfast.

But just remember,

when we're in a tent,

the Balden family

are a non-farting family.

- Thank you, father.

- Dad, shut up.

I'm going to work

in Woolworth's.

Lynn grew up in

the East End of London.

Why am I using a wooden spoon, please,

to stir this saucepan?

Well, in a grammar school,

I don't think you'll find

many girls that really want to

do all that hard woodwork.

At 21, she began a career as

a children's librarian,

starting off

in a mobile library

in East London.

I've not stamped yours.

"Sleeping Beauty. "

Teaching children

the beauty of books

is just fantastic.

To work with children

at that age,

you've got to love 'em,

and I love children.

Because of cuts

in the education budget,

the mobile library

was shut down.

At 42, Lynn was working

at Bethnal Green.

You can draw,

better than I can.

Good morning!

When we went back at 49,

she was still there.

Good morning!

For the last

30 years, bang my head

against a brick wall

to maintain children's services,

but this time round,

no one's listening.

They say that the work that

I do, that anybody can do it.

There would be no specialist

running it.

One!

I may not have a job.

At that library review,

I got a job.

Two years later,

another review.

And cutting departments again.

That time

I didn't get the job.

But has it

been worth it all?

Yeah, very much.

All these things

that I've said

over the years, flying through

my mind at the moment,

but yes,

it has been worth it.

Mm.

And you better cut it, because

otherwise I'm going to cry.

Fortunately, I was over 50

and I could draw my pension.

We decided, we can downsize,

we'll move out,

smaller property,

it's only the two of us

at home now.

And we'd be great.

Then the crash came.

And then Riley was born.

And what I thought

was stress

was nothing.

Riley is one of Lynn's

three grandsons.

How much did he weigh

when he was born?

Two pounds

and a quarter ounce.

As soon as he was born,

they took him straight through

to the neonatal

intensive care unit.

Three! How many you got?

He was put on

oxygen, monitors on,

tubes coming

out of everywhere.

And he's absolutely fine,

thanks to the NICU unit

at William Harvey Hospital

in Ashford.

Mummy's going to work,

say "Bye-bye, Mummy. "

Riley has an older brother,

Connor.

For the last

18 months or so,

I've actually

had Riley full-time.

If I could, I would have, um,

two girls and two boys.

I've been married a year

and a couple of months.

You do think,

"Christ, what have I done?"

When she was 19,

she married Russ.

They had two daughters,

Sarah and Emma.

I'm very much

geared to the family unit.

I mean, us all,

we do things

together all the time.

At 42,

the girls were both doing

very well at school.

Neither of the girls

went to university?

No, no.

Was that

disappointing to you?

No, their choice.

We discussed it.

It's what they wanted to do.

They felt that the academic side

wasn't for them.

Sorry.

So, was the arrival of

Connor a shock to you?

No! Well, yeah, but...

She was 19.

She's old enough.

Oh, look, he's coming

after you, look,

he's coming over here to see.

And how is

old Connor doing?

He's doing great.

He's off to his new

secondary school.

Keeps telling me he's nearly as tall as me,

but I keep saying,

"No, you've got

a while to go yet. "

How does

he deal with Riley?

He loves Riley to bits.

But Riley is just

a two-year-old.

Sarah and Adam have got married

since we last saw you.

They have got

a little boy

called Harry.

He's getting on fine.

Sarah, having just

had Harry,

was put in the same boat

as I was.

The day before she was due

to go back to work

after maternity leave,

made redundant.

Yeah, so, there used to

be a lot more subspecies,

but for various reasons...

And she's now trained as

a child minder.

She's doing

absolutely brilliantly.

And is Emma

still in the same job?

- Yeah.

- Is that going okay?

I mean,

with the recession,

work dropped off

an awful lot,

but seems to be

picking up again now.

So, Russ took

early retirement, too,

so, what's happened

with him?

Because of the crash,

he picked up a job,

and instead of

the two part-time jobs,

he got a full-time job.

So, we are looking at

a much longer working life

than perhaps we thought.

Yeah, for everyone.

The goalposts keep climbing.

People that thought

when they started work

that they were going to

retire at 60,

draw their state pension

as well,

it's totally changed.

They come round

and mop the floor,

and then a couple minutes later

another waitress...

I'm not politically minded,

but I still believe

that they haven't got a clue

what they're doing.

Some people are never, ever

going to recover from it.

It's unfortunately

going to be quite

devastating for them.

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