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And seeing what he saw.

And there is a jewish word

called kvell.

And that's what he looked like

when tom performed...

He was kvelling.

He was glowing.

- It was incredible

to finally experience

That feeling of love...

you know, like the butterflies.

It's what I always imagined

that all my friends felt.

It didn't take long for me

to move into his apartment.

- They got very close

very quickly.

I think their freedom

wasn't moving to I.A.

I think tom was definitely

the door for shane

To come to terms with himself.

- Tom was a safe place.

When tom met shane,

he was a little, lost sheep.

And tom

really looked out for shane.

- He loved making dinner

even when he was really tired.

He loved tying my ties...

Even properly

tucking my shirt in,

Because at culver, they teach

you how to do all that.

- Tom truly was pursuing

his dreams,

And shane knew

that bills had to be paid.

Shane was the level-headed one.

- What one couldn't think of,

the other one could.

They found

an awful lot in common.

They were both romantics.

They're both from small towns.

Both wanted to make

an impression on the world.

- They were always smiling

and always having a good time.

I mean,

they're the kind of couple

That makes you believe in love.

- I just loved their bickering,

Which was really flirting.

That was probably my favorite

part of their relationship.

- I did this once

in military school...

The kid had to shave his head.

why are you telling me that?

Seriously, don't pull so hard.

- They were like

an old married couple...

They were young, gay,

but they never wanted to go out.

I'm like, "let's go to the bar.

Let's go to the club. "

They didn't go out a lot,

'cause they were always working,

trying to build something.

- I know that, for tom,

it wasn't just about fidelity,

Which, of course,

was like number one.

It was also about being

Completely

emotionally available,

Mentally available,

spiritually available to shane.

- When you get to my age,

You start being

a little agnostic

That anything like that

can occur.

But over time,

it became pretty apparent

That this was something

that was probably going

To last

for a very, very long time.

There was an aura about them

that just was something special.

- Everyone in this room,

Or anyone watching

this documentary could wish

That they had

the love that tom and shane had.

That's what you dream about

at night.

And they had it.

- Shane and tom started doing

online promotion for musicians.

And they had the little,

tiny shack of a studio,

But it was just so much fun,

And we would just spend

hours and hours

Just trying to think of ways

to take over the world.

- All of a sudden,

There was this factory of videos

that started coming out.

They had all these ideas

For what could be a tv show

or a travel show.

- Hey, everybody, I'm tom,

in the beautiful, extremely hot

And humid city

of rio de janeiro, brazil.

- Welcome to tomandshane. Com.

- Welcome to tomandshane. Com.

- I'm tom.

- And I'm shane.

- And we're in oahu.

- And we're in oahu.

- Why do you always

do that voice?

I know. I'm the pilot.

this is better than a pilot.

you know you do that voice.

- Oh, I know.

- Okay.

- They became adventurers,

filmmakers, documentarians.

I think they just really liked

the idea

Of taking the excitement

that they had and sharing it.

- The more

tom and I fell in love,

The more we wanted

to tell our parents about it.

But each of us had

the philosophy

That there was no need

to tell your family

Until you found that person

That you were gonna spend

the rest of your life with.

So, my mom and my aunt

were visiting,

And it was very late at night,

But I told my mom

that I had to talk to her.

With tom by my side, I said,

"mom. "

- I said, "honey, if you're gonna

tell me you're gay, that's fine.

I know it,

and I'm okay with it. "

And I said,

"and is tom your partner?"

And tom goes,

"yep. I'm his partner. "

Tom was sitting there waiting

for a big blowup or something,

And I just said, "well, great.

You know, I don't have to worry

about shane like I did. "

Tom was my godsend.

Shane didn't have

his anxieties anymore.

He was more confident.

He was happy.

He was just more of a man.

- I never imagined

That I could love my mom

even more than I did.

She had been there through

all my struggles of being gay.

And we never said out loud

what the real deal was,

But now we had.

It was the greatest feeling

ever.

- # chestnuts roasting

on an open fire #

- Tom and I knew

It would be a challenge

to come out to his parents.

So, he was in indiana

for christmas.

It was just him and his mom.

And there was something

that came on tv

About a lesbian couple,

And tom's mom made a comment

about how that was disgusting.

And tom, at that moment,

just realized,

"like, I need to tell her. "

- He told his mom, "mom, I'm gay.

When you say things like that,

you're talking about me. "

- He was, I think,

sort of building

On what had happened

when shane came out.

Shane had come out

to his mother,

And she basically

filled in the blanks...

"oh, you're gay.

I knew that already.

I always knew that. "

- I was sure that his mom

knew that he was gay.

But she immediately called

his dad to come home from work

Because of this breaking news.

And she went on and on

about how it was a sin

And that tom

should have told them sooner

So he could

have gotten medical help.

- His dad said a lot

of hateful things towards him

And blamed shane

for making him gay.

- "it's shane's fault.

Shane turned you gay.

Being in I.A. Turned you gay. "

- "all of your accomplishments

so far mean nothing now. "

- They said, "change your mind.

You have to change your mind. "

And tom said

that he just kept saying no...

Like, you know,

"I can't change my mind.

It's not a mind-change thing. "

- Tom called me.

He told me that his dad pulled

a shotgun on him.

And at that point,

I was really scared.

So, while tom and I were

on the phone,

His dad, norman, literally

ripped the door off the hinges.

And his mom got on the phone,

and she said to me,

"listen here, f***er...

I don't know

what you did to our son,

But we're gonna come to I.A.,

and we're gonna find you. "

- I think the phrase

his dad used was,

He was gonna come

out to california and gut him.

- I used to always have

this fantasy

Of tom and I going

to indiana for christmas

And just, you know, going to bed

And waking up

on christmas morning,

All of us going out

to the living room...

You know, there's the tree,

And tom and I just sitting there

with his family,

Opening presents together,

And me just saying something

that I think's funny,

And I look over,

and tom's parents are laughing.

It's stupid, but it's just...

It would be like

an incredible thing

If something like that happened.

- When the police showed up

at the house,

Tom's dad just kind of

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