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I expect my baby in December.

We're still young, obviously,

so it's a bit

of a shock, but I am excited

about it.

How old are you now?

19, coming on 20.

Are you excited

to be a gran?

Couldn't bear that.

She doesn't like

being called "granny. "

No, I will be "gran,"

not "granny," thank you.

Not nappy full now,

please, madam.

Oh, look at the face.

Well, since you were here

recently,

we've had a new addition

to the family.

Her name is Mia.

Mia was born

on the 21st of November.

And unfortunately, on the 18th

of November, her granddad,

Ian, the boys' dad,

was severely injured

in a road traffic accident.

He subsequently died

of those injuries.

Unfortunately, he never regained

consciousness

so he never even met her.

But he took a photo of her

in his coffin, and I dare say

he's looking down and saying,

"Ha, I got away with it.

I've not got all those nights. "

I'm due to go into the Army

on the 17th of October,

where I'll learn to become

a medic.

I can't stop him now.

He's 18, he can do what

he likes.

He can sign on

without my approval.

But it's a chance he takes,

and he knows that there's

a possibility

that he won't come home.

At the end of the day,

you're a soldier

and going to war is part

of being a soldier

and that's what

you got to do.

I want you to do it, but it's

not going to stop me worrying.

You know that.

You know that.

I took a year off when

I had Charlie

and the state kept me

for that year.

But I went back to work,

and although,

to be honest, by the time

I pay everything out,

I'm not actually that much

better off, but I feel better.

James, you watch,

you're catching up to him.

Go on, Lee.

I was working up here

until very recently.

But then discovered that I've

got rheumatoid arthritis.

So at the moment,

that's put work on hold.

Misty, come on then.

For every one good day I have,

I can have two bad.

Which means I can't get out

of bed very well.

It takes me two, three hours

to get ready.

The poor,

if you don't help them, they'll

sort of die, wouldn't they?

Jackie has been living

on disability benefits

for over 14 years.

I don't cope financially.

Without my mother-in-law

stepping in to fill the gap,

I wouldn't be coping.

It's really hard to explain

to anyone

who's not had to do it.

You get to a point where,

either that bill doesn't get

paid or your children don't eat;

so, obviously,

your children eat.

So, looking

at the world of cutbacks,

how is this affecting you?

I, along with probably millions

of other people in this country,

have had my benefits reviewed.

And they sent me for a medical

and have come back and told me

I'm fit to work.

Which is a bit of a shock.

What job can I do?

I can't use my hands.

I can't sit for long.

I can't stand for long.

I can't walk very far.

I don't know how they expect

anybody to employ me.

Because I couldn't guarantee

being there five days a week.

I mean, I'm lucky inasmuch

as I've got three sons

all working,

whilst James here has got

Mia and a family of his own.

Charlie and Lee don't,

so they help me out.

They have to.

By all means,

cut the benefits.

But you've got people out there

that are healthy

and are milking the system.

And they're not touching them.

They're getting away with it.

If David Cameron can find me

a job, then I'll go to work.

You tell him to come get me

a job and I'll do it.

I know he loves her

and he loves her.

I don't, I love him.

I'd like to be able

to have a happy family.

I mean, I know it's not possible

to be happy all the time,

but as much of the time

as possible.

What about your own life?

What about relationships

for you?

I would like

a relationship.

I've been trying

for the last five years

to build up a social life

of my own.

Because I knew

that this time would come.

I've been using the Internet,

which is interesting,

to say the least.

Is it scary?

I mean, some people

have obviously

had bad experiences with it.

There was a chap

that we filmed when we were

looking at you and Liz...

what happened to him?

He decided

he needed space.

So I gave him that space.

So that was a bit of

a disaster.

But that's the way

of relationships... sometimes

they work, sometimes they don't.

What are you

looking for in a fella?

Pulse would be nice.

If I said that I love you

and you know it's true

You look great,

you seem optimistic.

Yeah, no, I am.

My glass is always half full,

never half empty.

And that's the way it will

continue to be, I hope.

Life's too short

and you just have to try and go

on the best you can.

And I think my life

is going to be good.

What sort of things

do you do?

Ride, swim,

play tennis.

Ping-pong.

And I might play croquet.

Things like that.

I don't think my father wants me

to be a farmer.

My youngest brother's

the deaf one,

if he can't do anything else,

he can probably run a farm.

I thought that you and I were

both in the film as being

rural, in the sense that

your family

had some big connections

to sort of rural Scotland.

I think also,

when we were 21,

I remember having to go

to some reunion somewhere,

and I remember you just

stuck out as being

the one person that I had more

in common with

and spoke to the most.

We'd been e-mailing

each other

since forty-something...

It was one night,

I think it was quite late,

and I just threw a line at Nick,

I said,

"I'm going to bed now.

Perhaps you and I ought to do

a double act on the sofa. "

I mean...

And he wrote back some

funny message.

No wonder!

I would, wouldn't I?

When I leave the school,

I'm down for Heathfield

and Southover Manor.

And then maybe I may want

to go to an university,

but I don't know

which one yet.

My home life

wasn't very easy then.

I'd been sent off to boarding

school when I was quite young.

My parents' marriage

was breaking up.

And like

a lot of children,

I think you feel that you take

the blame

for why they've broken up.

That's just the way it was,

and I hated the two years

I was away at this first

boarding school, and I think

that was probably

what changed me.

Well, I hated boarding school,

too, with a passion.

I was forced to grow,

I didn't choose it.

I definitely got some messages

that said,

"You're going to be

in trouble

if you don't do well,"

and so on.

But you don't regret it.

And you wouldn't have

the life you have now.

Hey, I'm grateful for it,

but it was very uncomfortable.

I was never one

to push myself forward.

And nobody else

was pushing.

And no one else

pushed me.

I left school when I was 16.

I went to Paris.

I went to secretarial college

and got a job.

What made you decide to

leave school and go to Paris?

Well, I just wasn't interested

in school

and just wanted to get away.

If you had had no choice

but to get out there and support

yourself,

the chances would

have been greater

that you would have forced

yourself to do it.

Yeah, that's possibly true,

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